well it appears that after a week long wait, the heavily advertised site has most of its contents indexed now. maybe it was due to the fact google observed too many inbound links to my site and decided to wait a little longer to verify my site is not all spam / mfa. i think submitting a site mapped help, but as far as i can tell, my other sites with no sitemap still gets indexed with no problems.
so its been about a week since i started advertising heavily on one of my 2 sites. the heavily advertised site has only a small percentage indexed by google. this site also has sitemap submitted to google and has about 100x more links pasted all over the net. guess what, the unadvertised site currently has 100% of its content indexed by google whereas the heavily advertised site only has < 30%.
content and organic traffic is where all the money is at, no if ands or buts!